Andha Naalu Per!!!

This article is completely dedicated to those four people who have taken almost all the steps in shaping my life. They have been like pillars in all imaginable ways. They have seen me taking my first steps into this world, growing up and climbing my teenage days and then end up in a profession. They will also be there watching like hawks getting me married. No Doubt! 

By this time, I know you all would have guessed who I have been talking about in the above few lines. If you had guessed the answer as "My Parents", then you are completely wrong! These four people are totally invisible in society but they still ensure that they influence and mould your life in all possible ways. 

Let me start off from the day I was born. 

I was born in those days, whereby still the birth of the girl child was considered a burden! My mom had told me that my nanamma (father's mom) did not celebrate  my birth as she did for my brother. Now immediately don't think that my nanamma as the villain. She was one hell of a sweet lady who inculcated her artistic skills  into me. She was greatly influenced by those four people and their holistic concepts. She was obviously trying to be diplomatic and merge with society. If at all she would have voiced her opinion, she would have been ignored by the society because in those days women voicing their opinion was also considered illegal by the same four people.

As I grew up, these dhanda buggers (waste buggers) were busy influencing my parents, torturing them to save money for marriage more than education. Thank GOD!  My parents were such strong headed people, that they considered that education will be my best gift. The moment I completed my under graduation, they had started pestering my parents about marriage talks. Ennadhan da unga Prechanai??? These four idiots will have hell lot of problems in their family but they solely  focused only in other affairs. The degree of determination that they have is mind blowing! 

I am 27 years old now, so you can image the amount of torture that I would have undergone. This also shows how strong my parents have been :) 

We have been living in this home for more than 30 years which means we are known to a lot of people. One fine day, an old lady residing 10 homes away from our home walks up to my mom and asks why I was not yet married (Rhomba mukiyum). She even convinced my mom to go and visit an astrologer the next day. The output was wastage of Rs 300. Seriously I could have had one mutton biryani and barbecued chicken in this money :(. God heard me cursing this old lady and he was so kind enough to start off a property fight between her daughter and her son to the extent that police had to get involved ( You can imagine how happy I was - all 34 teeth eeeeeeeee I say)!!!

I was so bugged with my first job and I received an opportunity to work in Coimbatore for a year. It was the most toughest part of my life. But what made it more  tough were these four nameless fellows. They had the guts to tell  my parents that they had sent their daughter for work so that they can use the money and enjoy their life. How insane?? When I returned back, I could see that my parents were mentally drained handling these psych heads alone!

As I am still single, the four people have imagined the following things.

1. I am in love ( most common syndrome that they associate with all bachelors and spinsters especially above 25 years)

2. I have a mental problem (I suffer from adangapidari or the headweight syndrome)

3. My parents have no money to get me married (Seriously hilarious) 

4. Something is seriously wrong with my astrology (God himself has told them)

These guys are so jobless and vetti and it is very easy for anyone to identify them. From my experience here are some points of how these people can be recognised.

They generally move in groups (can be 4 or more than 4). On a a lazy evening you can find them chatting in the veranda or on the road in groups of 4. They can also be your relatives. If you cross them the common lines you might overhear is "avangaveetla" (in their house), "Andha paiyan or andha Ponnu" (that girl or that boy),  Ava mamiyar (her mother in law) and so on...

You can also see them in marriages whereby they will be raising the BP of the girls mother, asking her how much gold are you giving to the Bridegroom, how much has the bridegrooms family promised to give in return, Mapillai US ah, will your daughter leave to US after marriage, avanga mamiyar epdi... and the list continues adding more fuel to the already burning fire in the mothers head...After asking all these shameless questions, they even sit in the marriage dining hall to eat the oosi sapadu. As a matter of fact, these people only have the name of  "Well Wishers" but they for sure won't like to see the growth of other people. 

Our society has raised us in such a way - that we live only for these four people. Sadly none of us have made an attempt to live a life for ourselves! I felt it was high time that someone writes to those four people. My dear readers all you need to do is share this post with as many people as you can! 

Dear nallu per, 

Yaarda neenga?? Please let us know what your problem is? It would be great if you stop imagining! You people suffer from schizophrenia, so please consult a psychologist today. It will help you on the long run! You people are basically jealous that such wonderful things have not happened in your life, therefore, you are trying to spoil the fun for  others too! Kindly grow up! 

For all those who have been influenced by these four people,

I know how difficult it is to come out of this influence. As mentioned earlier, these four

people might be your relatives. So you cannot even speak back at them. But, it is high time, we take a step forward. The only people who care about you truly will be your parents, your husband or wife and some of your close friends. Apart from this list you do not have to put with anyone else. Your family loves you truly and they will by all means support you and understand you. So please do not take decisions based on these four people anymore. 

The time has come to change.... Live life...Don't exist!!

Regards,

Brinda Megasyamalan

Those Eyes.....

I can't peer through those eyes
The radiance is blinding
Filled with sheer love and promise
Changing the dynamics of my life
I can’t even find a tinge of doubt
The message is so clear
I just have one stupid question-WHY??
It convinces me with another glance
Some miracles do happen!!!
As I smile back
It brightens up
I was never sure
Just what chemicals kindle a stars faithful burn
But I am sure what will bring life to those eyes!!
In spite of 1000 questions
wracking my nerve cells
I would still spend every night
Dreaming up poems about your eyes
Coz it has all my answers!!

The last drop of tear....

Swimming through tangles of emotions

I can never be happy

Nor make others happy!!

I am just a burden 

In this world of emotions 

Where I try to satisfy my peers

As a mark of respect, And lose mine

'Coz life is all about sacrifice

Here i go...killing another soul

Right in front of my eyes

As I am not able to answer those bewildering questions

I can see its bleeding heart

Pleading for me 

As i enter the crossroads

I enter the flames of sacrifice

Burning my emotions to ash

As I turn to bid a final farewell

To the pleading soul

I apologise

It accepts my words

'Coz it needs my happiness to survive

On the way of my happy journey

I still continue my intangible lies

changing 1000 masks every second

For the satisfaction of the world

A world which has taken an oath to slay me to death

I silently hate myself each second

Till guilt intoxicates my nerves

I still smile holding my head high

All through this pain

Evolving into a an emoticon of trust

I hate this clueless life

Filled with money, luxury and caste

But no space for your happiness!!!

Finally my last beat arrives

Where I look back and convince myself

I was happy

Just to see the smile of the people

I loved all through my life

As the world around me smiled

I saw two souls still pleading to be together

Trying to break away from bonds 

And hold their hands!!!

Leaving the physical form

Finally it is lonely

Lonely enough to shed tears 

For the pleading soul

Which it abandoned once upon a time!!!

Light a life!!!

I woke up to another sluggish Monday morning!!! I don’t know what’s with Mondays and me, maybe I watch too much of Garfield cartoons, that I have started hating Mondays like him. I moved like a snail out of the bed and got ready to go to office to get my brains chewed!!!



The climate was good and I liked the wind hitting my face. I stopped in the petrol bunk to fill fuel for my bike. As my petrol tank was getting filled, my gaze fell on a little boy who was trying to impress a guy inside the car by cleaning the car mirror. He was wiping the glass frantically fixing his gaze on another car behind. Once his task was complete his eyes looked at the fellow inside with so much expectation. The guy dropped some coins to that little fellow. I caught a glint of happiness in his eyes. Then a huge smile spread across his face and he bounded to the next car and started his work again. As I started from that place I was wondering what is happiness exactly. To that little lad it was just the matter of earning those two rupees which kick started his day on a positive note.



I was moving along, negotiating the traffic, and observing the faces possessing long lost expressions. I was wondering what could exactly bring such an expression on their face. I saw a guy talking cheerfully on his cell phone. I could sense from his expressions that it was his girl on the line. The discussion was nothing extraordinary. He was just updating her about what he had done all morning, but then I could see a sparkling smile on his face. He was happy talking to her on that busy road. While there were people around me cursing the traffic congestion, this fellow was jubilant and thanking god for those few minutes of delay that enabled him to catch up with his girl.

On the other side of the road, a mother was pulling her two children to reach the school gate. She was in such a hurry to drop them and carry on with her work. As she left them near the gate the young girl pulled her mom down and planted a huge kiss on her cheek and scooted away quickly. The mother stood there smiling and waving her hands to her kids. For a moment I could see that she was not worried about anything in this world. I could realize that she would have felt the same while giving birth to her little ones and holding them in her shivering hands for the first time. A woman has two smiles that any angel might envy, the smile that accepts her lover before words were uttered, and the smile that lights on her baby, and assures it of eternal love.



Happiness takes various definitions with different people. For many it is just a momentary feeling. Once I remember a woman telling me that she had tears in her eyes when her husband gifted her with a wrist watch on her birthday. Well at first I dint understand why she had to cry because it was so natural for a husband to give a gift. She went on to explain that her partner has never gifted her with anything. Her husband did not know what love meant exactly. He was so involved in his business and he just treated her like a slave. But after so many years he had realized the worth of having a woman beside him and found a way to express his love. As she rightly said it was a moment to cherish for a lifetime. She told me that she wouldn’t mind even if he reverts back to his usual self as this was enough for her!!!



After the tiring day at work, I decided to hit the beach. I saw a group of young boys playing cricket on the road. The sun was scorching and there was the constant threat of policemen chasing them away, it just didn’t matter to them. The guy who was batting looked bony and puny and he was not even wearing a shirt. Well I could almost count his ribs. With so much of poverty behind I saw him enjoying every moment of play!! When the ball went for a six he was screaming his lungs out and laughing!! I wondered whether Sachin would give such a reaction!!! The little boy was swaying his broken bat in the air and was enjoying the momentary recognition from his team mates.



When I asked what happiness means to a couple of my friends, they all came up with one answer. It was the moment their guys proposed them!! I saw their eyes rolling to recollect that moment again. I could feel their excitement as they narrated the incident.
Well my question was different!!! These were all happiness that lasted for a moment. There are always events and incidents that lighten up our life at some point like a trekker reaching the peak of a mountain!! But is there anything that a person could do to attain happiness for a lifetime???

I am generally a greedy person who is never contented with momentary happiness. As I was walking on the beach, I was just wondering where to find so much of happiness. I picked up an ice cream and walked on, soon to be followed by a brown mongrel. I could see nothing but hunger in his eyes. The dog was in such a bad condition, and if it was a human being he would be admitted in hospital with two to 3 glucose bottles hanging from all sides. Even with such low dose of energy the dog was wagging its tail to a stranger. I had no choice but to donate that ice cream to the poor canine. I was astonished by the speed at which he gulped it down, then after a quick thank you to me he just left the place!! His behavior actually made me laugh. It was kinda cute and funny. As I walked further I dint feel bad for giving up my ice cream. I felt so good about it.

How many times have we waste our daily food??? When we are so angry on something we show that on the food we eat. For a moment please do think about those poor African kids who are in need of food!!! One look at their pictures and the next moment we will all be thanking god for giving us such blessed lives!!



There are so many beings on this earth that needs a helping hand. For example the boy who was wiping the glass of the car just to get his daily meal. What if we could sponsor his education? Of course money is the need of the moment. But if we could spend a minute to think a little about that poor boy’s future, his life will be transformed and his future would be blessed.
As I walked further I heard a grandpa explaining to his grandson.
If you want happiness for an hour- take a nap.
If you want happiness for a day- go fishing.
If you want happiness for a year- Inherit a fortune.
If you want happiness for a lifetime- Help someone else."
Well, that someone could be anyone. I had found the answers to last my lifetime!!!

By
Sasha
(PS: This post is entirely dedicated to my virtual friend)